How to ask if someone is gay

How Do I Inquire a Girl If She’s Lesbian or Queer?

Despite more people than ever feeling free to approach out as their authentic selves, a common lesbian battle remains – figuring out whether a girl is gay. Although being queer doesn’t need to be defined by a ‘look’, it can be especially hard to explain when she doesn’t meet those ‘stereotypical’ characteristics. If your gaydar is going off, but you’re not quite certain, there are many ways you can go about asking someone if they are gay or in the LGBTQ+ spectrum.

If you’re romantically interested in this person, it might feel like a nerve-wracking conversation to bring up. Putting yourself out there is hard, but it’s only when we step out of our comfort zones that we can make connections with others! If you still can’t bring yourself to ask the large question, “Are you gay or what?” don’t fret. There are plenty of more subtle ways you can approach the subject of sexuality.

Keep reading to learn how to ask your teen crush if she’s gay, as successfully as what to do with your answer to hold things to the next level.

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So I have been adj at my current place of employment for around five years now. I won’t say the name but the official dress code is the inconspicuous blue polo shirt and khakis. I’m friends with almost all of my coworkers and we regularly go out to wine and dine after serve (thankfully, all of us are girls).  When we leave out, we often talk about our personal lives, quixotic or otherwise.  Recently I’ve noticed that one of my coworkers, whom I don’t know very well, hasn’t necessarily tried to divulge any details about their romantic or sexual partners, even when everyone else has.

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