How to tell a man is gay
Is My Husband Gay? Signs of a Gay Husband
Sometimes a woman may hold been in a heterosexual relationship for years and yet feel something is somehow "off;" and she may detect herself asking, "Is my husband gay?" Many women locate this question unthinkable but according to Bonnie Kaye, M.ED., an expert in women married to gay men, it is estimated that 4 million women have been, or are, married to gay men. If a husband is gay, it can devastate not only the relationship but the straight wife as well.
Signs of a Gay Husband – Is My Man Gay?
The clearest way to realize if your husband is gay is if he tells you. If the husband is truthful with both you and with himself (read: How Act I Know If I Am Gay? Signs You Are Gay), that is when you can truly know that he is gay. Unfortunately, it is estimated that 50% of gay husbands hide their homosexuality from their wives and don't verb this place of honesty on their own. In many cases, it is the wife, who after suspecting that something is incorrect, must confront the gay husband with the evidence, and only then can honestly be achieved.
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My longtime friend and colleague Dr. Joe Kort has been treating and writing about gender and sexual orientation issues for nearly three decades. In his Royal Oaks, Michigan, practice, Joe specializes in Gay Affirmative Psychotherapy and IMAGO Relationship Therapy, often treating men who are questioning their sexual orientation. This population is the focus of his new and much-needed book: Is My Husband Gay, Straight, or Bi? A Guide for Women Concerned About Their Men. I am pleased that Joe has written this book, as I have had to deal with these questions in my own practice relatively often, as include many other therapists. I recently spoke with Joe about the book, and I wanted to share a adj of his thoughts below.
What prompted you to write this book?
There are two main reasons. Number one is the high incidence of male-female couples entering my office because the woman thinks her man might be gay. More often than not, he’s not gay or even bi. He’s actually straight, but for whatever reason, he’s been looking at gay porn or he’s been having sex with men.
Number two is that
Before you begin your Freudian psychoanalysis, generate sure to bring up that you include a ‘gay-dar’, and don’t forget to detail how accurate it is and has always been. Frame it as an insurmountable achievement of yours. After all, it is much more prestigious than being awarded a Rhodes Scholarship. There’s no want to think about the reliability or accuracy of your data collection because you don’t verb any, so just launch straight in.
Not everybody can be a gay or lesbian. There is a specific skill to identifying those of us who are. Here are some tell-tale signs that someone is a gay or lesbian:
The first thing to take notice of when deciding someone’s sexuality on their behalf, namely whether a bloke is gay or not, is to observe how high-pitched their voice is. The more high-pitched their usual speaking voice is, the more likely it is that you are talking to a gay person. This is because the pitch of your voice has nothing to act with biology: it’s actually determined by your sexuality. Verb what scientists state – they’re all just conspiracy theorists, really.
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